- Kelly Singh
Empaths - How To Avoid Burnout On All Levels...
Don't burn out - How to Recognise it and Nurture You!
Self-care reminder: Just because you feel it doesn’t mean you’re responsible for it.
Hello my dear soul sisters and brothers,
Our world is changing rapidly, and there is an urgent need for healers to share their gifts.
Unfortunately, people with a heart to help others find themselves tired and overwhelmed, eventually becoming exhausted and unable to carry on with their essential work.
Burnout happens because we are empaths by nature. So naturally, we are sensitive to other people’s emotions, thoughts and energies, and their environment and the world as a whole. A desire to help draws us to walk this path.
Too quickly, we can take on other people’s energies and become swamped by the needs of others. Even with the best intentions, we can burn out.
Do you often feel deeply attuned to the feelings of people around you? For example, when someone smiles and says they’re fine, perhaps you know they really aren’t?
Do crowds make you uncomfortable? Maybe you’ve left a party or public place because you felt a surge of energy—you were suddenly mad or frustrated, even though you’d been having a perfectly good time. This could be picked-up energy from another guest, and you might be an empath.
Empathetic people's hearts go out to others. True empaths feel others’ happiness or sadness in their own body, which can lead to emotional overload.
Empathy is a word you hear a lot, often in terms of what the world needs more of. It’s hard to argue with it—the idea that the world needs more empathy.
But what does the word really mean?
How is it different from sympathy, compassion, or even pity?
And, while we tend to think of empathy as a positive quality, is it really always a good thing for the person who feels it?
What about for those deemed “true empaths”—do they feel empathy at an entirely different level?
The definition of empathy has become so jumbled over the last few decades that many of us use the word in different ways without even realising it. That can be a problem in cases where understanding your capacity for empathy can help you protect yourself from emotional burnout.
Are You an Empath?
Here are a few questions you can ask to find out if you’re a true empath
Do people tend to come to you with their problems and fears because they know you will listen?
Do you feel the emotions (positive or negative) of other people? For example, do you become overwhelmed with sadness when someone tells you a story of loss?
Do you have a hard time setting boundaries because you’re afraid you will hurt someone’s feelings by saying no?
Do you feel emotionally drained after spending time with people and need extra time to “recharge” before engaging again?
Do you often feel called to intervene or help someone who is having a tough time emotionally?
Do sad stories tend to stick with you and affect your mood for hours or even days?
Are you a people-pleaser who will sacrifice your own plans or wellbeing to help others?
The Gift and Pain of Being an Empath
Empaths have the ability to understand the experiences and feelings of others outside of their own perspective. It is different from empathy or compassion. Being an empath means you physically experience the same emotions as others. Being an empath can be a deeply sensory experience and a great gift. It means you care deeply about the world and other people. But it can also create distress; because empaths sense and feel others’ emotions as if they’re part of their own experience, it can be challenging to know whose emotions they are. In other words, someone else’s pain and or stress can latch onto you.
Of course, being sensitive to other people’s feelings to the point where you feel them too isn’t always healthy. It doesn’t even necessarily lead to a person being kind—you can be empathetic without being compassionate, for example. If you’re often in a high-stress, overstimulating environment, your empathy can also lead to burnout.
10 Signs of "Healers Burnout":
1. You are questioning why you are doing the work you are doing and feel as if you have lost touch with your sense of purpose?
2. You are feeling swamped by other people’s processes, and it feels as if negative energy is clinging to you?
3. You are feeling exhausted because you aren’t taking proper care of yourself and are putting everybody else’s needs ahead of your own?
4. You are feeling overly sensitive to external stimuli and the energy of others. You feel drained, and your batteries need recharging?
5. You are feeling triggered emotionally by your clients or the people around you?
6. You are finding it difficult to set and maintain clear and healthy physical, emotional or mental boundaries?
7. You are not honouring your uniqueness and are not using your gifts as a force for good?
8. You are unable to tap into your psychic senses at will?
9. You are struggling to remain objective and neutral and feel pulled into other people’s dramas?
10. You know deep down that your connection to your soul and spirit could be stronger?
Protecting Yourself as an Empath
Being open to the feelings of others and the energy surrounding you can be invigorating and rewarding, but empaths can be easily exhausted as well. The potential for emotional overload means that empaths need to take special care of themselves in order to keep functioning.
Self-care can include using mindfulness to stop and gauge your stress levels,
Breath work to reduce overstimulation,
and learning to create and maintain boundaries in order to keep toxic people from sucking up emotional energy.
We live in a world with so much bad energy that it can easily seep in and deplete an empath of their strength, even leading to depression and anxiety.
Most importantly, true empaths should recognise and appreciate their gift, and learn to appreciate their connection to others, so that they can understand why they feel so deeply, and how to care for themselves, while they’re absorbing the energy from the world around them.
If you are an empath, here are some helpful ways to feel more grounded in your own energetic field:
Notice when you feel an emotional surge. Where do you feel it in your body?
Ask, is this mine? Pay attention to your inner guide.
Notice where you are, who you are with, and what you are doing.
Breathe into the tight areas and imagine breathing out your compassion into the world.
Detach from the drama around you. Notice what you are consuming—news, stressful or needy people, violence in movies or TV; decrease and take lots of nature breaks outside, such as walks by a river or in the woods. Which can really help you to feel more grounded.
Look after your own needs, such as healthy foods, drinks, rest and rejuvenation.
Take time out to write about how you are feeling, allow the emotions to come out and work out how you can help yourself to cope better and have something in place where you can process things, such as meditation or self reflecting on what just happened, by taking some quiet time away from everything.
Just before you go to bed at the end of the day, ask Archangel Michael to cleanse your body and auric field of all the energies, cords and anything that isn't your energy, that you may or may not have picked up from others that you met this day or had interactions with, each and every night while you are laying comfortably in bed, before you drift off. This will really help your energies to feel cleansed and can really help you to get an amazing nights sleep. Try it!
A 3-step approach to cultivating compassion and overcoming empathic sensitivity:
1. Set an intention to evolve beyond your empathic nature. An intention might be: I am present, I have boundaries and I am compassionate with myself and others, fostering self-responsibility always, will always benefit you.
2. Monitor and train your 2nd chakra (Sacral chakra) to cease vacuuming in other people’s emotional energy. Bring your awareness to your 2nd chakra, slightly below your navel, and imagine closing the petals of the chakra to about 25% open.
3. Cultivate your compassion centre. Fill your upper chest with beautiful, clear, light pink energy…the frequency of compassion.
Practice this repeatedly. Consider pausing and performing this energetic reset before joining activities and moving through your day.
Imagine your life without the depletion and exhaustion of taking on and holding other people’s emotional energy. Imagine compassionately uplifting others without being taken down. Regulating your 2nd chakra and anchoring in your compassion centre and heart chakra, creates an elegant and empowered solution that benefits you, and all with whom you come in to contact with.
Affirmations to Balance Your Emotional State
To further support you in these difficult and challenging times, these affirmations could help you to reclaim your true power and balance of your emotional state.
I acknowledge my discomforts.
I feel what needs to be felt.
I seek out sanctuary and trust the process.
I can only take responsibility for me, myself only!
The fastest way to solve the problem is to stop participating in the problem.
I see love everywhere.
I take time to rest and I nurture my body and give it what it needs.
I detach from the drama around me.
I am calm in the chaos and I am in control of the way that I feel.
My anxiety is not based on reality. I perceive the world with love.
I don’t waste time with negative thoughts.
Kindness and thoughtfulness wins.
When I am feeling angst, I ask, “What is this situation trying to teach me?”
My beliefs do not define me. I am willing to see other peoples perspectives without having any judgment.
When I look at the world as a good, happy, and kind place, good, happy, and kind things come to me.
I believe in the good of humanity.
I witness situations without judgment.
I see the world with love.
I am the love.
I am enchanted with life.
I see the beauty in everything.
All is well.
I pray for the highest good of all involved.
Determine to live true to your heart assist others without Compromising your vitality; your gifts are unique and honouring them is part of all of our calling.
Embrace the light within you...
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Much Love From